Macho - blog - Sister to Sister

The 'hand that rocks the cradle and rules the world' can, and should, eliminate macho, one of the major causes of strife in our society.

My daughter calls it pissing against the wall. Male dogs piss against the wall to determine who is boss dog. The one who pisses the highest covers the other dogs' piss with his own urine and thus becomes lead dog.

Of course, men do not literally piss against the wall now that we have indoor plumbing. Instead, they are bossy, have the fastest car, the biggest television, the larges pay checks, and, sadly, the hottest, young wife. This type of thinking is not conducive to a healthy, prosperous society.

Who allows the survival of this stupid trait? We, mothers, allow it and some of us even encourage it because we want our boys to be manly.

Our goal should be to redefine the meaning of macho as well as manly. They should be defined as honorable, supportive, considerate and a lot of other positive things. “I can piss higher on the wall (have the best possessions and most money)” is the definition of a big baby, a spoiled brat, a self centered person.  Do we want our sons, or daughters, to fit this definition? The hand that rocks the cradle should be the hand that teaches all children to be aware of how they treat other people. That should be a true manly, and womanly, definition, one that will improve our world.

Empathy and consideration can be learned. Step one is to encourage observing how others feel by noticing their expressions, their words and the tone of their words. Studies have proved it can be done. Our species is capable of learning amazing things, including empathy and consideration.

Empathy and consideration will help a man, or woman, be a better parent and spouse and a more productive boss or employee.